Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Two weeks in...

Well, I'm two weeks farther on my goal to a better me.  I'm doing the 21 Day Fix, by Beachbody.  This program involves learning portion control and working out daily.  Each daily workout is approximately 30 minutes in length, and they vary day by day.  As of today I can say that I haven't missed a day.  I'm really proud of myself for this for several reasons.  I'll get to those later.  Pardon me as I bore you with the details of my workouts.  I'm trying to draw you a picture of what these entail, in case anyone out there is interested in taking a step on this journey with me (not trying to toot my own horn).

Monday:  Total Body Cardio - the name speaks for itself.  When I first started this exercise I thought I was going to die in the first minute.  Yes, you read that right.  The. First. Minute.  You see, there is an exercise called a "surrender."  Believe me when I will tell you that you will surrender to whatever power you believe in before you finish this exercise.  If you try this workout, I encourage you to just push through it (rather than completely surrender and quit)!  A surrender goes like this:  You begin in a standing position.  Drop your right knee to the ground, drop your left knee to the ground.  Stand up using your right knee (no hands!), come to a full stand by bringing your left knee up.  Repeat this for 60 seconds.  It may not sound difficult, but trust me when I tell you that you may find yourself making noises you didn't know your body had potential to make.  In addition to the surrenders, this workout has something "neat" that involves lying on your back holding your leg up with the toes turned outward (like frog legs really) and then doing crunches.  It truly is mortifying when people happen to walk in and see you...this I learned the hard way when I tried to work out in the living room one day.  No one was home...but then they got home, and here I was looking like a very damaged frog trying to do my stomach crunches.  You live, you learn I guess.

Tuesday:  Upper Body Fix - This workout involves using heavy and light weights.  YOU determine the weights that you start with.  All the instructor asks is that you don't stick to light weights once it gets "easy" for you.  Continue to push yourself through the workouts.  Now, although some people may consider the upper body to include the abdomen, I myself kind of think of the abdomen as "middle body."  Unfortunately for me, Beachbody considers the abs to be a part of the upper body (and every other stinking part of the body, because they work them in every workout)!  Circle crunches and scissor twists are the bastards of this workout.  I am happy to report to you that I can feel my workout for a couple days after, which means I'm doing them correctly.

Wednesday:  Lower Body Fix - Again, using weights, there are all kinds of exercises to help strengthen your lower body.  Surprise, this means your abs too!

Thursday:  Pilates - I looked forward to Pilates on the first week of my workout.  I had this image of what Pilates was like before I started.  Deep breathing, lengthening of muscles, peace, quiet, and relaxation.  I. Couldn't. Have. Been. More. Mistaken.  Yikes.  Don't get me wrong, Pilates does incorporate all of those things.  My mistake was thinking it was going to be easy.  Pilates has taught me a new appreciation for holding my body in somewhat strange positions, trying to control my breathing by breathing shallowly (and loudly) all the while hoping that no one in any other room of my house can hear me and thinks I'm having an asthma attack.

Friday:  Cardio Fix -  I have to say, honestly, that there is not any one thing that comes to mind to describe this workout.  It is a lot of moving around, heavy breathing, and I know my body is working.  Sorry to say there isn't anything too comical to share with this particular workout.

Saturday:  Dirty 30 -- This workout lives up to its name.  I have to say, each of these workouts really make me sweat.  I start each night in the basement with my yoga mat out, my weights, my water, my towel.  The window is closed.  I mean, it's October in Wisconsin, of course the window is closed.  By the time I'm done with my warm-up, I'm so warm that I open the window.  And that cool, pleasant breeze washes over my skin.  And five minutes later I find myself wishing we had a thousand windows.  Probably my least favorite exercise in this particular workout involves doing a side plank --think laying on your side, forearm on the ground.  You lift your body up so that your toes (or in my case your knees) are supporting you and the rest of your body is off the ground.  Then, you repeatedly lift your upper leg and bring it down.  With controlled movement.  Without wiggling your torso.  And continuing to breathe.  It looks something like this (but please, don't for even one second think that I have my other arm in the air):

Sunday:  Yoga - My favorite workout day.  Nothing like active recovery to let everything stretch out and feel better.  I have very little complaints about this workout, it is so relaxing and I feel awesome when I'm done.  I suppose I'm glad that no one ever walks in as I'm doing one of the many downward dog poses...having my butt sticking in the air is not the most self-confidence-boosting position, but oh well.

I'm happy to report that on my last weigh-in, I was down ten pounds from my last doctor visit.  I'm not sure where exactly this puts me with my goal to lose 25 lbs, because I had been down closer to where I am now when I started the last frozen embryo cycle.  Unfortunately, preparing your body for pregnancy and that period of waiting to find out if you're pregnant tend to take a toll on healthy eating and one's body.  So, I'm either 15lbs from my goal or I'm 23 lbs from my goal.  Either way, I'm making progress one day at a time!

Monday, October 13, 2014

The "Talk" With The Doc

Talked to the doctor today.  I informed him that Tony and I are going to wait a few months before we try this again.  We need to get balanced and relaxed.  We had a wonderful weekend and that was a good start.

Tony and I enjoying the beautiful outdoors at a retirement
party this weekend.
The doc and I also came up with a plan.  I'm going to continue eating well and resume my workouts - when I lose 25lbs I will call the doc and we will give our next round a go.  The doctor has absolutely no clue what the problem is.  According to him, the success rates are exactly the same with frozen as with fresh embryos.  The reason I was asking is that we have had two positive pregnancies with fresh cycles, and two failed frozen transfers.  He told me it was just plain luck.  Each transfer has a 50/50 chance of being successful.  We're sitting at exactly 50% right now.  That gives me hope that the next time we could be back in the positive range.  I hope so, anyway.  We also discussed whether or not we would be able to do another fresh IVF cycle if we run out of embryos, and got the complete go-ahead.  That was a relief!  He also apologized are going to be successful in this process.  That was reassuring, as I have the very same feeling.
for us having to go through this, and told me he had a feeling that we

So, tonight I did my Total Body Cardio workout from the 21 Day Fix program.  I've done this workout before so nothing was a complete surprise mentally, but physically my body was a little angry with me for springing this workout on it.  LOL.  My legs are protesting already, and I can tell that tomorrow I'm going to be awfully sore.  Hopefully I'll be able to walk! :)  Tomorrow I will do another workout (there are seven total, one for every day of the week).  I will do these workouts every day for the next 20 days.  In addition to that, Tony and I are starting the couch to 10K program.  Initially we started the couch to 5K program, but enjoyed it so much that we're switching it up so that we have a fourteen week program instead of a nine week program to challenge us.  The best part is that we're doing it together.

Speaking of together, I just have to tell you how much I love my husband.  Not only is he my best friend, but he is my biggest supporter.  Though three years is such a short time to be married to someone (it feels longer at times ;)), I know without a doubt that all of our struggles have made us a stronger unit.  We are, in fact, united.  As much as all this infertility stuff is frustrating, exciting, painful, disappointing and anxiety-inducing all in one, it has brought us closer together.  For many couples dealing with infertility the stress can cause problems.  I know that the lesson for me in this is that I have gained the knowledge that our marriage is strong and will continue to be strong through any trials we may face.  There is no question that we want a baby, and somehow we will have a baby...someday.  I'm just so grateful that I have someone by my side who I enjoy as much as I do.  We make a great pair, and will be just fine until that baby happens.


Thursday, October 9, 2014

What's in a number?

What's in a number?  That depends what the number means to you.  In our case, we find ourselves forced to wait for a very important number.  To us, the number means pregnant or not pregnant.  How can one little number hold so much power over us?  Every time I go in for this blood test after waiting 9 days (or 14 when it's a fresh cycle), I pray for peace and strength.  I acknowledge that Heavenly Father is in control.  I didn't cry today when I sat in the chair as I have previous times.  I was able to joke with the phlebotomist as she took my blood.  I was sending positive juju to that tube the entire time.  What's in a number?  This time, for us, not pregnant.  And it sucks.